Intentions

Money

Build the budget with Ilana

Keep Ilana current on runway

Apply for jobs

Get Ilana’s feedback on resume/cover letters

Set Affinity as payment method for accounts

Intentions, not plans

Write to the “I should” part of me

Notice the parts of me that say “I will” or “I am”

Be aware of the retrospective critic

Be assertive about what I actually want to be doing

Notice when I’m seeking escape

Dialogical letter writing

Keep going to therapy

Ask Jason for homework at the end of sessions

Re-read my therapy recaps

Make music for myself

Don’t skip studio days

Keep making small things

Publish web things

Offer Isaac steady, low-pressure presence

Move my body

One scheduled fitness thing per week

Get my knee looked at

Listen to my body when it is trying to communicate

Do pushups regularly

Schedule dentist appointment

Get glasses repaired or new glasses

Talk about therapy recaps

Ask instead of mind-reading: if I read annoyance in her face, check before I start serving or fixing

Ask Ilana how I can support her

Remember Ilana’s struggles with executive function

Give Ilana enough of how I think that empathy is possible

Let Ilana help

Share the day-to-day

Read her passages of the therapy recaps or journal

Schedule some couples therapy

Give problems attention without making them the only way we spend time

Talk about how we give our time to others before committing

Be with Ilana without turning it into an assignment

Bring playfulness, even if it’s brief

Finish the office

One thing at a time